I’ve been doing a fair bit of learning lately. Learning mostly that it’s not a good idea to try to do everything all the time and sometimes there are people and events that are bigger than you.
There I was thinking that building my own business revolving around growing nutritious food and sharing this developing knowledge was huge and really important above other stuff.
Then my Dad had a stroke. The quicker the response for a stroke victim, the better the outcome. Ideally, seeking treatment within 4 hours is ideal. Dad has a significant event and didn’t receive help until 12 hours later. No one really knew what to expect. At first we thought he may not walk again and didn’t know how damaged he may have been. So I did a fair bit of long distance driving, there were many phone calls to attempt to stay in the loop and supporting family physically closer to Dad.
For further information about strokes (these suckers impact on 1 in 6 Australians – which is more than breast cancer and more than prostate cancer), How to respond and where to look for help check out the Stroke Foundation . Needless to say the planting and workshop schedules went out the window.
Then my husbands dad went through a major medical drama too.
Throughout all of this, my husbands workload seemed to keep expanding before my eyes and then pop the icing on the cake with an unpaid second job of being an owner builder in his remaining waking hours (and some of the ones meant for sleeping too).
Then school holidays kick in. I love holidays, but I think my work productivity drops by at least 50%. You get up a few hours earlier to harvest and deliver to take your daughter to the city for the day, as public transport was facing ‘significant delays’. Not too bad in the scheme of things – just a constant juggle to see how stretchy those hours are and how much you can cram in.But you know what ? Days are long, weeks tend not to be, kids aren’t kids for too long and parents aren’t going to be around forever.
So a few balls were dropped (try – disbanded) as I realigned my priorities to make more space for love.
School went back today and I was actually disappointed to see the end of our unstructured days and super loose weeks. I guess without work, you don’t appreciate the holidays, the gifts people give you by rocking up week after week to help you build your dream business. The curious and super supportive peeps who want to see your school volunteering ideas flourish. So at bottom of the day, make sure you look after yourself, appreciate those around you and give energy where you can.
…..3 months after my Dad’s stroke, he’s now a lot stronger and there’s a few steps being taken here and there. If he hadn’t been looking after himself with good food, exercise and good company (not to mention brilliant neighbours), his story may have had a far less positive outcome.
Enjoy what you’ve got, where you’re at and drink plenty of water in the crazy heat – just like the plants do 🙂